Dear Mom

I believe that you read posts on this site from time to time and hope that it has helped you on your road to peace/understanding/acceptance, as it has helped me. I want to thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for the changes you have made.

I will be the first to admit that I have shown you the very worst parts of me –   parts that shake my sense of identity to it’s core. I also realize that I have been exposed to things that you would likely prefer no one fully realize, and that some of those intimate details of your life that I have been privy to were not shared with by your choosing.

I wasted entirely too much energy with judgement, and I am very sorry for for ever feeling self-righteous enough to do so. I suspect that we have some common ground in the not having a clue what we were actually getting ourselves into department. That is not to say that I have any regrets, nor do I think that you do – I simply mean that sometimes even the greatest moments in life are exponentially harder than we expect them to be.

FYI, here is who I am: a person whose disastrous life was turned around with the gift of a sincerely unplanned pregnancy. From there, I went on to do exceptionally well in college and find my calling in life, which brought me into frequent contact with who put their own desires ahead of the best interests of their children. I do not think, nor do I feel qualified to judge your choices. I am simply letting you know who I am. Who knows who I would be as a mother, if my child had another parent. Literally every good part of my life exists because of my child.

I cannot begin to imagine how it feels to be you – nor can you fully realize my experience. Moving forward, I hope that this realization weighs on both of us with regards to our interactions.

Thank you for the changes that you have made. It was really great to have a “big day” without some form of attention-seeking communication from you.

My hope is that you and I are both living the lives we have always imagined – and that we both respect that each of us deserves nothing less.


~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on August 30, 2011.

One Response to “Dear Mom”

  1. I love the letters….what a great way to vent. You are so right, until you’ve been in our position it’s hard to judge

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