To my Dearest/Dickhead Husband

So it seems that we are back where we were, me feeling disrespected and left out and me feeling like you are catering to SD. You, from what I understood from our conversation, just wanting to keep the peace and “make everyone happy.” I have to say that doesn’t work. It didn’t work before and it doesn’t work now. I am done feeling like an outsider in my own home. I am done walking on eggshells because you tell your child one thing and it ties my hands. I am tired of what I see as guilt parenting. You and BM couldn’t make it work, it was both your fault, that doesn’t mean that SD will have any less of a life. You keep saying you wish SD was more like me; guess what buddy, my dad NEVER catered to me. My dad had rules and consequences and he was consistent. My dad did not change the rules because I was a witch, he stuck to them and I learned how to be a respectful, responsible adult. I can take care of myself, which is something you can’t say about BM or SD. Hell, at 14 SD can’t take care of herself long enough to clean her clothes, take care of her dishes, turn in her homework, or do ANY of her chores. So I’m done being the scapegoat. I’m done being blamed for your inability to parent. If you want to raise a BM clone, a bully that wraps everyone around her little finger, go right ahead. Raise your little princess to be just like her mom, the one you left because you couldn’t take it anymore. The one you despise because she won’t work with you, the one who can’t even tell you a freaking thing because she doesn’t see you as a dad. You raise that little princess and when she is divorced because her husband can’t freaking stand her and her ways you can pick up the pieces. It will be yours and BM’s fault, not mine, and I will be the one telling you once again, “I told you so”, if I’m even around.

The Evil Wicked Stepmom/Wife

~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on December 8, 2010.

2 Responses to “To my Dearest/Dickhead Husband”

  1. I complete understand your pain. I hope that it felt good to vent. Know that you are not alone. There are many of us “evil” stepmothers out there. Good luck.

  2. I have no advice, but want to say that you have lots of support here with us other stepmoms. I wish you all the luck in the world, and hope your husband comes around.

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