Dear Husband

I have never known anyone like you. From the moment I met you, and the night we talked at the Halloween party, I knew you were something really special. I felt a connection to you that I’ve never felt with anyone before.

In the early stages of our friendship I would look across the room and catch your eye (we were always glancing at each other!) and my heart would just pound. You are the handsomest man I know, and oh so sexy. Watching you with your kids, I discovered what the definition of a great daddy of our generation really is. They were so little, and you are so patient and affectionate with them. It captivates me that you can have a lot of fun with the kids, while also having loving expectations that will help them grow into kind, respectful adults who care about others.

I cannot say in words how much I admire the kindness I see in you. You have so much love to give, and you do so freely, every day of your life, to anyone and everyone you come across. You rarely have a negative thing to say about anyone, even when they have wronged you. You are generous with your affection, your time, your talents, your money, your muscles to do hard work. I don’t think I will ever be able to express to you how much I truly, deeply, genuinely appreciate all that you do for me. You take care of me in ways I wouldn’t have even thought to ask!

Now we are coming up on our first wedding anniversary…I can’t even believe it’s been a whole year already! What a ride! It’s gone by so fast. You have held my hand through every up and down as I’ve adjusted to being your kids’ stepmom. You have high-fived me at the victories, and caught my tears at the yucky stuff. I know it is not easy for you, to be in the middle the way you are, and to try and please everyone and show how much you love us all. In some ways I think you have it the hardest of anyone, because you feel all of our pain cumulatively, and yet there is often not much you can do to fix it. I know that you would give everything you had including your own life to make everything better for all of us, when we have pain. Knowing that you care, that you want to fix it even when you can’t, DOES make it better, I promise.

I want to thank you for supporting me in my role as stepmom, and for giving our relationship priority. It was hard for me to wrap my brain around this at first, and I know it might still seem awful to other people, but you were right when you said that I should be first in your priorities. It is because of your wisdom in this that you and I are able to show your kids what a healthy romantic relationship looks like. It is because of your wisdom in this that your children respect me and my role, and that we are parenting them well together. It is because of your wisdom in this, and your ability to put the words in action, that you and I are building a marriage that will never become just another divorce in your kids’ lives.

I know it is hard for you to watch when things are hard for me, as it is hard for me to watch when they are difficult for you. I appreciate that you care so much, and I want you to know that the difficult times we have been through in the last year do not in any way take away my love for you, and I have NO regrets. In fact the challenges we face together only increase my love for you. You are my rock. We are a team. You are the one person in my entire life that I truly want to be near 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. As you know I am an introvert, I have always needed a lot of downtime and “alone” time…but with you, it’s different. I always want to be by your side, and I always will be. That will never change, no matter what happens in our lives. I love you so deeply sometimes I can hardly believe it is possible to love another person so much.

I know you are not perfect, you have your faults just like anybody else does (please learn to close the cabinet doors 🙂 ), but I do believe that God created you to be the perfect match for me. It couldn’t be any better. I look forward to another 60-something years just being next to you.

Happy Anniversary Sweet B!

~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on January 28, 2010.

2 Responses to “Dear Husband”

  1. […] as the Lovely Man and I approach our own anniversary, I’m loving this Dear Husband letter that made me cry and reminded me all over again (not that I needed it!) of why I do what I […]

  2. This made me cry. Thank you for a wonderful and the best year of my life. For being there as we grow and as I lean how lucky I’m to have you. Also as we grow as a family which a be joyful and painful all in the same day. I love you more today than I did I this time last year and that love grows each day.

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