Dear Ex-Wife

Lately I can stop thinking about you, maybe it is because soon our lives are going to change financially.

Yours for the worse ours for the best and I have mixed feelings about it. I am relieved that my husband and I will not have to give you a big portion of our monthly salaries, I can’t tell you how hard it has been for us this past year to worry if he is going to bring home money at the end of the week knowing that we have to write you a check no matter what. It has been so many years and we have never been late or missed a payment. I pray every day it never comes to that even if I have to work two jobs. But now that we only have xx months left to pay you, I can’t help but feel bad for you.

I know you will have a hard time. I want you to know that I will not be against my husband helping you, but I need you to take responsibility for your actions also. It seems to me that you and your daughter blame me for your financial situation, but if you remember correctly when you were married to him you did not pay bills on time , did not save any money, and lived week to week. Remember the IRS? Tthousands of dollars you guys owed. Remember how he could not get a credit card because his credit was so bad and  recently we have to pay a debt owed by you. I am not just blaming you he is to blame also, remember when you guys got divorced how he took all the debt and left you the house, the car end everything in it.

A few years later he and I paid off the debt, saved, took trips and bought a nice house.

Your daughter resents me for it because she thinks I took this from you.  I will really appreciate it if you would tell her how even if my husband were with you  today you would not have  these things, that if her father and I have these things is because I have a lot to do with it.

I am really sorry for the pain we caused you and trust me when I tell you  we will continue helping you even after the court alimony order ends if it is possible for us.

Take care and best wishes,
New wife

~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on October 19, 2009.

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