Dear Bio Mom

Even after all of these years I cannot understand how a mother can be so cruel to her child…I realize that you are angry with my husband for not marrying you when you “accidently” got pregnant. But it has been almost thirteen years. When are you going to move on with your life and get over it? I understand that you are insecure that your son loves his father. I know you worry that one day he will ask to come and live with us. I get that. But what I don’t get is how you can put your own selfish wants and needs above the well-being of your child.

You say that your parental alienation tactics are not harming my stepchild. I think you know you are hurting him and DON’T CARE. You MUST know when you are hurting him. I have seen the pain on his face when you have blocked access. I have seen the insecurity in him when you lied to him and told him his father was trying to take him away from you forever. I have seen him look so sad when he mentions that you say you don’t want him to be anything like his father. Do you not understand that when you badmouth his father the only one you are hurting is HIM? Do you not get it that when you keep him from his dad HE is the one who is suffering? Do you not get that he is being raised by you to believe the fathers are useless? Can you not see that he is going to end up in an unhealthy relationship just like you have? But wait, you don’t want him to ever grow up do you? That is the only reason I can think of why you would treat him like he is incapable of doing things that should be age appropriate for him. You want him to remain a little child forever dependant on you….does this sound familiar? Your mother tried to do this to you and you don’t like her very much anymore, do you? Well take a long look in the mirror because you have become her. Your selfish insecurity is destroying the life of your child. And the things is? There is no doubt in my mind that you KNOW IT…

One day your little boy is going to look around and realize that all the time he lost with his dad was YOUR DOING. He is going to remember that his father and stepmother never once badmouthed you (well at least not in front of him). He will realize that we never involved him in court proceedings or in conversations (arguments) that we had with you. He is going to realize that you did everything in your power to make my husband jump through hoops to have his child in his life. And one day very soon he is going to call you on this. He is already processing this and is beginning to start voicing it to us. It is only a matter of time.

This should be sweet revenge. But sadly, I cannot get any satisfaction from this. Because in the end he will be the one who suffers. As it has always been.



~ by Jacquelyn Fletcher on February 21, 2009.

3 Responses to “Dear Bio Mom”

  1. thats a damn good letter!

  2. Yes it is a good letter and I am in the same situation. They forget that the only person they hurt is their child.

  3. Holy crud I have chills

    How awesome is THIS?

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