Dear Stepdaughter

Happy Birthday! I cant believe how quickly you’re growing up, and how much of that time Dad and I are missing. I hope your special day brings all your wishes to light. I hope someday when you are old enough  you discover your truth. I hope someday you come to find your own path, your own hopes and dreams, your own truths. I hope you know how much Dad and I miss you, how much we want to be with you and how hard we faught to do what’s right and best for you. You, my darling daughter, you are our only goal, your best interests are the prize we were fighting for. I hope you realize someday, that we did everything we could to make your life as stable and ordinary as possible. I know right now you’re angry, and I don’t blame you. I hope you let that anger go and go forward with living your life. Please know that everything Dad and I did we did for you. We tried baby, we faught so long and so hard and we just couldn’t fight anymore. We saw what it was doing to you, how you were inadvertantly being put in the middle and we couldn’t bare to see you continue to be hurt so we did what we thought was best. We stopped fighting. We didn’t give up on you, we didn’t abandon you, we let you go in hopes that if we let go you’d have a better chance at making it. Not a minute of any day goes by that Dad and I don’t think of you. Not a day goes by that we don’t wonder what you’re doing, how you’re changing, if you’re learning new things. Not a day goes by that we don’t question our choice, wonder if we did the best we could for you. I know in my heart that we did. I know in my heart that by letting you go we are giving you a chance, a chance to live without being a pawn in someone else’s game. I’m sure you’re angry, I’m angry too. I’m angry at all the people who saw, who knew what was being done to you and did nothing to stop it. I’m angry, but I’m trying to let that anger go because I know that being angry is stopping me from living and I hope you let go of your anger so you can live. I hope one day, when you’re all grown up you’ll come back to us. Please know that our door is always open for you, our hearts are always with you. Even though we don’t see you, you have never and will never stop being a part of our lives, our daughter. Love never goes away, love never changes. I was blessed by God to have been given you to love, to care for, to be a part of my life. You may not have been born from my womb but your love grew in my heart and even though I will never be your mother, you will always be my daughter. I love you.

Love, Your Stepmom

~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on January 20, 2009.

One Response to “Dear Stepdaughter”

  1. Thank you, I’m so sorry, and I feel it too.

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