Dear Step-Dad

Over the years you know I didn’t really like you and although you’ve not changed too much over the years, my Mom has always loved you and as I’ve grown up I realize you’re not as bad as I made you out to be. I know you call me your daughter and that’s fine, but you aren’t and never will be my father. It’s not meant to be nasty, it just is what it is. You didn’t raise me and I never lived with you so it’s hard for me to think of you as a father when there was never a time that you actually fathered me. But I have no problem and encourage my daughter to call you Grandpa. And I thought it was nice when you said she didn’t have to. I’m not going to confuse her with semantics and you’re her Grandpa because that role is something you fulfill even if you never were really a father to me. And I’m happy you’re there to be a Grandpa to her because she loves you to death.

That being said I love you, and I hope you know that. I just have a hard time letting go of my own father because I love him too. I think you would understand that though.

~ by Stepfamily Letter Project on January 16, 2009.

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